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Are you bisexual? Here are some questions to help teens who are trying to figure out if they are bisexual.

One of the most common questions that teens ask on this site is "If I like guys and girls does that mean I'm bisexual?" or, "How can I tell if I'm bisexual?" And while there is no one test that can conclusively answer that, asking yourself some important questions can be a good way to help figure things out. So, take this quiz to help you get more insight into your sexual orientation!

Asking yourself these types of questions can be helpful, but don't worry if you don't know the answers right now. A lot of teens question their sexual orientation, and while some people know they are bisexual their whole life, for many people figuring this out is a long process!

I think that I'm bisexual. I've never thought of myself feeling this way, but I do. My new friend has admitted to being bisexual although she knows that I've never been. Lately I've felt somewhat attracted to her. I've even had dreams about her, but I still find guys attractive. Would you consider me bisexual or bicurious?

We are often called to label ourselves as purely sexually inclined one way or the other, either to be attracted to guys or to girls only, end of story. But in actuality, most people fall somewhere on a spectrum of attraction, fantasy, desire, and action with people of all genders. The curiosity your friend has sparked in you could be just that — same-gender wonderings — or it could be the impetus for discovering that you are bisexual, and may be attracted to other women in the future.

Your dreams about your friend fall well within the range of normal sexuality. Fantasies can be a powerful vehicle to discovering new facets and depths of your sexuality — some people feel ashamed of dreams or fantasies that do not fit into their waking lives or partners, but even taboo-feeling fantasies may teach us something about who we are attracted to and why.

The pioneering sex researcher Alfred Kinsey broke from popular thinking on sexuality in the 1950s, theorizing that bisexuality was in fact far more common than previously thought. Kinsey is perhaps most famous for his sexual-orientation scale, which represents exclusive heterosexuality with a zero and exclusive homosexuality with a six — bisexuality is regarded as an approximate three, when a person is equally attracted to or has had sexual experiences (including fantasies) with both men and women.

Most humans experience erotic desires, act on those desires, and have relationships in a social context. Kinsey's research showed that bisexuals had more sexual experiences with one gender or another depending on their social environment. In other words, factors that we might not think of as sexual per se, like political and social ties, can in fact influence those who we choose to be with and whether we identify ourselves as straight, gay, bi, queer, etc.

Dear Lesbian Life:
I'm 19 and I was wondering if I’m really a lesbian or am I bisexual? I know I’m young and I've read your answers to some of the peoples questions, but I really think that I’m different when it comes to that because I really do know who I want to be with and that would be a girl.

I knew I was attracted to girls when I was in the 6th grade and that was actually my first time with a girl and I've been attracted to girls ever since, but I have also been with men. I don’t want to sound like I sleep around but I've been with more girls then I have with men and I’m much happier with a girl and to me it feels like that’s who I belong with. Some people say that a lesbian is someone who’s never been with a male, is that true?

People say I’m more of a bisexual because I've been with men but I disagree because now I don’t even like the thought of being with a man. I personally say I’m a lesbian because I know who I’m attracted to and who I want to be with in the future, I just want to know what to call myself.

Last year I came out to my mom and it was devastating to her and all she said was "This is a phase you’re going through you'll get over it, and it’s because of the people you hangout with." I totally disagree with her.

Please help me understand my sexuality and let me know what you think about this whole thing because I really don’t think I’m bisexual.
Little Lesbian

Are you bisexual? Here are some questions to help teens who are trying to figure out if they are bisexual.

One of the most common questions that teens ask on this site is "If I like guys and girls does that mean I'm bisexual?" or, "How can I tell if I'm bisexual?" And while there is no one test that can conclusively answer that, asking yourself some important questions can be a good way to help figure things out. So, take this quiz to help you get more insight into your sexual orientation!

Asking yourself these types of questions can be helpful, but don't worry if you don't know the answers right now. A lot of teens question their sexual orientation, and while some people know they are bisexual their whole life, for many people figuring this out is a long process!

I think that I'm bisexual. I've never thought of myself feeling this way, but I do. My new friend has admitted to being bisexual although she knows that I've never been. Lately I've felt somewhat attracted to her. I've even had dreams about her, but I still find guys attractive. Would you consider me bisexual or bicurious?

We are often called to label ourselves as purely sexually inclined one way or the other, either to be attracted to guys or to girls only, end of story. But in actuality, most people fall somewhere on a spectrum of attraction, fantasy, desire, and action with people of all genders. The curiosity your friend has sparked in you could be just that — same-gender wonderings — or it could be the impetus for discovering that you are bisexual, and may be attracted to other women in the future.

Your dreams about your friend fall well within the range of normal sexuality. Fantasies can be a powerful vehicle to discovering new facets and depths of your sexuality — some people feel ashamed of dreams or fantasies that do not fit into their waking lives or partners, but even taboo-feeling fantasies may teach us something about who we are attracted to and why.

The pioneering sex researcher Alfred Kinsey broke from popular thinking on sexuality in the 1950s, theorizing that bisexuality was in fact far more common than previously thought. Kinsey is perhaps most famous for his sexual-orientation scale, which represents exclusive heterosexuality with a zero and exclusive homosexuality with a six — bisexuality is regarded as an approximate three, when a person is equally attracted to or has had sexual experiences (including fantasies) with both men and women.

Most humans experience erotic desires, act on those desires, and have relationships in a social context. Kinsey's research showed that bisexuals had more sexual experiences with one gender or another depending on their social environment. In other words, factors that we might not think of as sexual per se, like political and social ties, can in fact influence those who we choose to be with and whether we identify ourselves as straight, gay, bi, queer, etc.

Dear Lesbian Life:
I'm 19 and I was wondering if I’m really a lesbian or am I bisexual? I know I’m young and I've read your answers to some of the peoples questions, but I really think that I’m different when it comes to that because I really do know who I want to be with and that would be a girl.

I knew I was attracted to girls when I was in the 6th grade and that was actually my first time with a girl and I've been attracted to girls ever since, but I have also been with men. I don’t want to sound like I sleep around but I've been with more girls then I have with men and I’m much happier with a girl and to me it feels like that’s who I belong with. Some people say that a lesbian is someone who’s never been with a male, is that true?

People say I’m more of a bisexual because I've been with men but I disagree because now I don’t even like the thought of being with a man. I personally say I’m a lesbian because I know who I’m attracted to and who I want to be with in the future, I just want to know what to call myself.

Last year I came out to my mom and it was devastating to her and all she said was "This is a phase you’re going through you'll get over it, and it’s because of the people you hangout with." I totally disagree with her.

Please help me understand my sexuality and let me know what you think about this whole thing because I really don’t think I’m bisexual.
Little Lesbian

Here's a question I received from a woman who wants to know if she is a lesbian or not. She is confused and wants to know: Am I a lesbian?

Hi, I'm sure you get this question a lot. But I am totally confused right now. I'm 19, and attend college. I've always been in long relationships with men. I'm attracted to men, and they turn me on. But recently I met this lesbian in my class and we've been talking. When we chat I get turned on. I have never done anything with a woman, besides making out drunk. Could I be a lesbian, or is this a normal/ new experience feeling?

At some point every lesbian asks herself the question: Am I a lesbian? But many heterosexual and bisexual women ask themselves the same question and come away with a different answer. So, how do you know if you are a lesbian or if you're just curious?

If I only had a dollar for every time I've been asked this question, I would be a rich woman today! Struggling with one's sexual attractions is very common and not just with young people.

I know many of you are looking for cut and dried ways to determine your sexual orientation. Perhaps a quiz you can take. If only it were that easy!! Unfortunately, determining your sexual orientation is not that simple. It is something that will take time and self-reflection to determine. Talking to a therapist or a lesbian coming out group may help.

Are you bisexual? Here are some questions to help teens who are trying to figure out if they are bisexual.

One of the most common questions that teens ask on this site is "If I like guys and girls does that mean I'm bisexual?" or, "How can I tell if I'm bisexual?" And while there is no one test that can conclusively answer that, asking yourself some important questions can be a good way to help figure things out. So, take this quiz to help you get more insight into your sexual orientation!

Asking yourself these types of questions can be helpful, but don't worry if you don't know the answers right now. A lot of teens question their sexual orientation, and while some people know they are bisexual their whole life, for many people figuring this out is a long process!

I think that I'm bisexual. I've never thought of myself feeling this way, but I do. My new friend has admitted to being bisexual although she knows that I've never been. Lately I've felt somewhat attracted to her. I've even had dreams about her, but I still find guys attractive. Would you consider me bisexual or bicurious?

We are often called to label ourselves as purely sexually inclined one way or the other, either to be attracted to guys or to girls only, end of story. But in actuality, most people fall somewhere on a spectrum of attraction, fantasy, desire, and action with people of all genders. The curiosity your friend has sparked in you could be just that — same-gender wonderings — or it could be the impetus for discovering that you are bisexual, and may be attracted to other women in the future.

Your dreams about your friend fall well within the range of normal sexuality. Fantasies can be a powerful vehicle to discovering new facets and depths of your sexuality — some people feel ashamed of dreams or fantasies that do not fit into their waking lives or partners, but even taboo-feeling fantasies may teach us something about who we are attracted to and why.

The pioneering sex researcher Alfred Kinsey broke from popular thinking on sexuality in the 1950s, theorizing that bisexuality was in fact far more common than previously thought. Kinsey is perhaps most famous for his sexual-orientation scale, which represents exclusive heterosexuality with a zero and exclusive homosexuality with a six — bisexuality is regarded as an approximate three, when a person is equally attracted to or has had sexual experiences (including fantasies) with both men and women.

Most humans experience erotic desires, act on those desires, and have relationships in a social context. Kinsey's research showed that bisexuals had more sexual experiences with one gender or another depending on their social environment. In other words, factors that we might not think of as sexual per se, like political and social ties, can in fact influence those who we choose to be with and whether we identify ourselves as straight, gay, bi, queer, etc.

Are you bisexual? Here are some questions to help teens who are trying to figure out if they are bisexual.

One of the most common questions that teens ask on this site is "If I like guys and girls does that mean I'm bisexual?" or, "How can I tell if I'm bisexual?" And while there is no one test that can conclusively answer that, asking yourself some important questions can be a good way to help figure things out. So, take this quiz to help you get more insight into your sexual orientation!

Asking yourself these types of questions can be helpful, but don't worry if you don't know the answers right now. A lot of teens question their sexual orientation, and while some people know they are bisexual their whole life, for many people figuring this out is a long process!

I think that I'm bisexual. I've never thought of myself feeling this way, but I do. My new friend has admitted to being bisexual although she knows that I've never been. Lately I've felt somewhat attracted to her. I've even had dreams about her, but I still find guys attractive. Would you consider me bisexual or bicurious?

We are often called to label ourselves as purely sexually inclined one way or the other, either to be attracted to guys or to girls only, end of story. But in actuality, most people fall somewhere on a spectrum of attraction, fantasy, desire, and action with people of all genders. The curiosity your friend has sparked in you could be just that — same-gender wonderings — or it could be the impetus for discovering that you are bisexual, and may be attracted to other women in the future.

Your dreams about your friend fall well within the range of normal sexuality. Fantasies can be a powerful vehicle to discovering new facets and depths of your sexuality — some people feel ashamed of dreams or fantasies that do not fit into their waking lives or partners, but even taboo-feeling fantasies may teach us something about who we are attracted to and why.

The pioneering sex researcher Alfred Kinsey broke from popular thinking on sexuality in the 1950s, theorizing that bisexuality was in fact far more common than previously thought. Kinsey is perhaps most famous for his sexual-orientation scale, which represents exclusive heterosexuality with a zero and exclusive homosexuality with a six — bisexuality is regarded as an approximate three, when a person is equally attracted to or has had sexual experiences (including fantasies) with both men and women.

Most humans experience erotic desires, act on those desires, and have relationships in a social context. Kinsey's research showed that bisexuals had more sexual experiences with one gender or another depending on their social environment. In other words, factors that we might not think of as sexual per se, like political and social ties, can in fact influence those who we choose to be with and whether we identify ourselves as straight, gay, bi, queer, etc.

Dear Lesbian Life:
I'm 19 and I was wondering if I’m really a lesbian or am I bisexual? I know I’m young and I've read your answers to some of the peoples questions, but I really think that I’m different when it comes to that because I really do know who I want to be with and that would be a girl.

I knew I was attracted to girls when I was in the 6th grade and that was actually my first time with a girl and I've been attracted to girls ever since, but I have also been with men. I don’t want to sound like I sleep around but I've been with more girls then I have with men and I’m much happier with a girl and to me it feels like that’s who I belong with. Some people say that a lesbian is someone who’s never been with a male, is that true?

People say I’m more of a bisexual because I've been with men but I disagree because now I don’t even like the thought of being with a man. I personally say I’m a lesbian because I know who I’m attracted to and who I want to be with in the future, I just want to know what to call myself.

Last year I came out to my mom and it was devastating to her and all she said was "This is a phase you’re going through you'll get over it, and it’s because of the people you hangout with." I totally disagree with her.

Please help me understand my sexuality and let me know what you think about this whole thing because I really don’t think I’m bisexual.
Little Lesbian

Here's a question I received from a woman who wants to know if she is a lesbian or not. She is confused and wants to know: Am I a lesbian?

Hi, I'm sure you get this question a lot. But I am totally confused right now. I'm 19, and attend college. I've always been in long relationships with men. I'm attracted to men, and they turn me on. But recently I met this lesbian in my class and we've been talking. When we chat I get turned on. I have never done anything with a woman, besides making out drunk. Could I be a lesbian, or is this a normal/ new experience feeling?

At some point every lesbian asks herself the question: Am I a lesbian? But many heterosexual and bisexual women ask themselves the same question and come away with a different answer. So, how do you know if you are a lesbian or if you're just curious?

If I only had a dollar for every time I've been asked this question, I would be a rich woman today! Struggling with one's sexual attractions is very common and not just with young people.

I know many of you are looking for cut and dried ways to determine your sexual orientation. Perhaps a quiz you can take. If only it were that easy!! Unfortunately, determining your sexual orientation is not that simple. It is something that will take time and self-reflection to determine. Talking to a therapist or a lesbian coming out group may help.

When I was a teenager, I thought I was straight. During college, I came to the realization that I was a lesbian. I am quite comfortable with identifying as a lesbian, but occasionally I find myself attracted to men. In my heart, I know that I am actually bisexual, but it really bugs me! Recently, I found a guy that I really would have liked to date, but I couldn't bring myself to do it because I was afraid of how it would look. People (myself included) always seem to think that bisexuals are really either just promiscuous or just tragically confused.

I am still primarily attracted to women (especially for long-term relationships), so should I just stick with being lesbian? Is it fair to date a man when it's likely that it won't work out? How do I get my friends and family to understand what being bisexual really means? More importantly, how do I get myself to understand what this means? What if I really AM tragically confused?

Bisexual people, unfortunately, deal with prejudices and stereotypes similar to the ones you mentioned — being promiscuous or confused about their sexual identity — from heterosexuals and homosexuals alike. Fortunately, your realizations about your own sexuality offer you the opportunity to move beyond those stereotypes and accept bisexuality for what it really is: one more equally valid expression of the complex world of human sexuality.

If you think back to when you were coming out as a lesbian in college, you will probably remember worrying about how it would look if you dated women, and if your friends and family knew that what they had assumed all along — that you were straight — wasn't true. Those concerns are similar to what you're writing about now. A major part of your concern is probably how lesbians and gay men you've counted on as allies will react to your new identity as a bisexual, given some of the prejudices faced by bisexuals in the gay and lesbian community. In a way, you're coming out all over again.

When you write that you were comfortable living as a lesbian, you probably mean that you have built supportive networks of friends and family that make dealing with homophobia in society more manageable. You will find that dealing with biphobia — those prejudices and stereotypes mentioned above — will require pretty much the same. You can't stop people from thinking things about you or how you express your sexuality; you can, however, decide how you will think about it.

Are you bisexual? Here are some questions to help teens who are trying to figure out if they are bisexual.

One of the most common questions that teens ask on this site is "If I like guys and girls does that mean I'm bisexual?" or, "How can I tell if I'm bisexual?" And while there is no one test that can conclusively answer that, asking yourself some important questions can be a good way to help figure things out. So, take this quiz to help you get more insight into your sexual orientation!

Asking yourself these types of questions can be helpful, but don't worry if you don't know the answers right now. A lot of teens question their sexual orientation, and while some people know they are bisexual their whole life, for many people figuring this out is a long process!

am i bisexual woman quiz

Are you bisexual? Here are some questions to help teens who are trying to figure out if they are bisexual.

One of the most common questions that teens ask on this site is "If I like guys and girls does that mean I'm bisexual?" or, "How can I tell if I'm bisexual?" And while there is no one test that can conclusively answer that, asking yourself some important questions can be a good way to help figure things out. So, take this quiz to help you get more insight into your sexual orientation!

Asking yourself these types of questions can be helpful, but don't worry if you don't know the answers right now. A lot of teens question their sexual orientation, and while some people know they are bisexual their whole life, for many people figuring this out is a long process!

I think that I'm bisexual. I've never thought of myself feeling this way, but I do. My new friend has admitted to being bisexual although she knows that I've never been. Lately I've felt somewhat attracted to her. I've even had dreams about her, but I still find guys attractive. Would you consider me bisexual or bicurious?

We are often called to label ourselves as purely sexually inclined one way or the other, either to be attracted to guys or to girls only, end of story. But in actuality, most people fall somewhere on a spectrum of attraction, fantasy, desire, and action with people of all genders. The curiosity your friend has sparked in you could be just that — same-gender wonderings — or it could be the impetus for discovering that you are bisexual, and may be attracted to other women in the future.

Your dreams about your friend fall well within the range of normal sexuality. Fantasies can be a powerful vehicle to discovering new facets and depths of your sexuality — some people feel ashamed of dreams or fantasies that do not fit into their waking lives or partners, but even taboo-feeling fantasies may teach us something about who we are attracted to and why.

The pioneering sex researcher Alfred Kinsey broke from popular thinking on sexuality in the 1950s, theorizing that bisexuality was in fact far more common than previously thought. Kinsey is perhaps most famous for his sexual-orientation scale, which represents exclusive heterosexuality with a zero and exclusive homosexuality with a six — bisexuality is regarded as an approximate three, when a person is equally attracted to or has had sexual experiences (including fantasies) with both men and women.

Most humans experience erotic desires, act on those desires, and have relationships in a social context. Kinsey's research showed that bisexuals had more sexual experiences with one gender or another depending on their social environment. In other words, factors that we might not think of as sexual per se, like political and social ties, can in fact influence those who we choose to be with and whether we identify ourselves as straight, gay, bi, queer, etc.

Dear Lesbian Life:
I'm 19 and I was wondering if I’m really a lesbian or am I bisexual? I know I’m young and I've read your answers to some of the peoples questions, but I really think that I’m different when it comes to that because I really do know who I want to be with and that would be a girl.

I knew I was attracted to girls when I was in the 6th grade and that was actually my first time with a girl and I've been attracted to girls ever since, but I have also been with men. I don’t want to sound like I sleep around but I've been with more girls then I have with men and I’m much happier with a girl and to me it feels like that’s who I belong with. Some people say that a lesbian is someone who’s never been with a male, is that true?

People say I’m more of a bisexual because I've been with men but I disagree because now I don’t even like the thought of being with a man. I personally say I’m a lesbian because I know who I’m attracted to and who I want to be with in the future, I just want to know what to call myself.

Last year I came out to my mom and it was devastating to her and all she said was "This is a phase you’re going through you'll get over it, and it’s because of the people you hangout with." I totally disagree with her.

Please help me understand my sexuality and let me know what you think about this whole thing because I really don’t think I’m bisexual.
Little Lesbian

Here's a question I received from a woman who wants to know if she is a lesbian or not. She is confused and wants to know: Am I a lesbian?

Hi, I'm sure you get this question a lot. But I am totally confused right now. I'm 19, and attend college. I've always been in long relationships with men. I'm attracted to men, and they turn me on. But recently I met this lesbian in my class and we've been talking. When we chat I get turned on. I have never done anything with a woman, besides making out drunk. Could I be a lesbian, or is this a normal/ new experience feeling?

At some point every lesbian asks herself the question: Am I a lesbian? But many heterosexual and bisexual women ask themselves the same question and come away with a different answer. So, how do you know if you are a lesbian or if you're just curious?

If I only had a dollar for every time I've been asked this question, I would be a rich woman today! Struggling with one's sexual attractions is very common and not just with young people.

I know many of you are looking for cut and dried ways to determine your sexual orientation. Perhaps a quiz you can take. If only it were that easy!! Unfortunately, determining your sexual orientation is not that simple. It is something that will take time and self-reflection to determine. Talking to a therapist or a lesbian coming out group may help.

Are you bisexual? Here are some questions to help teens who are trying to figure out if they are bisexual.

One of the most common questions that teens ask on this site is "If I like guys and girls does that mean I'm bisexual?" or, "How can I tell if I'm bisexual?" And while there is no one test that can conclusively answer that, asking yourself some important questions can be a good way to help figure things out. So, take this quiz to help you get more insight into your sexual orientation!

Asking yourself these types of questions can be helpful, but don't worry if you don't know the answers right now. A lot of teens question their sexual orientation, and while some people know they are bisexual their whole life, for many people figuring this out is a long process!

I think that I'm bisexual. I've never thought of myself feeling this way, but I do. My new friend has admitted to being bisexual although she knows that I've never been. Lately I've felt somewhat attracted to her. I've even had dreams about her, but I still find guys attractive. Would you consider me bisexual or bicurious?

We are often called to label ourselves as purely sexually inclined one way or the other, either to be attracted to guys or to girls only, end of story. But in actuality, most people fall somewhere on a spectrum of attraction, fantasy, desire, and action with people of all genders. The curiosity your friend has sparked in you could be just that — same-gender wonderings — or it could be the impetus for discovering that you are bisexual, and may be attracted to other women in the future.

Your dreams about your friend fall well within the range of normal sexuality. Fantasies can be a powerful vehicle to discovering new facets and depths of your sexuality — some people feel ashamed of dreams or fantasies that do not fit into their waking lives or partners, but even taboo-feeling fantasies may teach us something about who we are attracted to and why.

The pioneering sex researcher Alfred Kinsey broke from popular thinking on sexuality in the 1950s, theorizing that bisexuality was in fact far more common than previously thought. Kinsey is perhaps most famous for his sexual-orientation scale, which represents exclusive heterosexuality with a zero and exclusive homosexuality with a six — bisexuality is regarded as an approximate three, when a person is equally attracted to or has had sexual experiences (including fantasies) with both men and women.

Most humans experience erotic desires, act on those desires, and have relationships in a social context. Kinsey's research showed that bisexuals had more sexual experiences with one gender or another depending on their social environment. In other words, factors that we might not think of as sexual per se, like political and social ties, can in fact influence those who we choose to be with and whether we identify ourselves as straight, gay, bi, queer, etc.

Dear Lesbian Life:
I'm 19 and I was wondering if I’m really a lesbian or am I bisexual? I know I’m young and I've read your answers to some of the peoples questions, but I really think that I’m different when it comes to that because I really do know who I want to be with and that would be a girl.

I knew I was attracted to girls when I was in the 6th grade and that was actually my first time with a girl and I've been attracted to girls ever since, but I have also been with men. I don’t want to sound like I sleep around but I've been with more girls then I have with men and I’m much happier with a girl and to me it feels like that’s who I belong with. Some people say that a lesbian is someone who’s never been with a male, is that true?

People say I’m more of a bisexual because I've been with men but I disagree because now I don’t even like the thought of being with a man. I personally say I’m a lesbian because I know who I’m attracted to and who I want to be with in the future, I just want to know what to call myself.

Last year I came out to my mom and it was devastating to her and all she said was "This is a phase you’re going through you'll get over it, and it’s because of the people you hangout with." I totally disagree with her.

Please help me understand my sexuality and let me know what you think about this whole thing because I really don’t think I’m bisexual.
Little Lesbian

Here's a question I received from a woman who wants to know if she is a lesbian or not. She is confused and wants to know: Am I a lesbian?

Hi, I'm sure you get this question a lot. But I am totally confused right now. I'm 19, and attend college. I've always been in long relationships with men. I'm attracted to men, and they turn me on. But recently I met this lesbian in my class and we've been talking. When we chat I get turned on. I have never done anything with a woman, besides making out drunk. Could I be a lesbian, or is this a normal/ new experience feeling?

At some point every lesbian asks herself the question: Am I a lesbian? But many heterosexual and bisexual women ask themselves the same question and come away with a different answer. So, how do you know if you are a lesbian or if you're just curious?

If I only had a dollar for every time I've been asked this question, I would be a rich woman today! Struggling with one's sexual attractions is very common and not just with young people.

I know many of you are looking for cut and dried ways to determine your sexual orientation. Perhaps a quiz you can take. If only it were that easy!! Unfortunately, determining your sexual orientation is not that simple. It is something that will take time and self-reflection to determine. Talking to a therapist or a lesbian coming out group may help.

When I was a teenager, I thought I was straight. During college, I came to the realization that I was a lesbian. I am quite comfortable with identifying as a lesbian, but occasionally I find myself attracted to men. In my heart, I know that I am actually bisexual, but it really bugs me! Recently, I found a guy that I really would have liked to date, but I couldn't bring myself to do it because I was afraid of how it would look. People (myself included) always seem to think that bisexuals are really either just promiscuous or just tragically confused.

I am still primarily attracted to women (especially for long-term relationships), so should I just stick with being lesbian? Is it fair to date a man when it's likely that it won't work out? How do I get my friends and family to understand what being bisexual really means? More importantly, how do I get myself to understand what this means? What if I really AM tragically confused?

Bisexual people, unfortunately, deal with prejudices and stereotypes similar to the ones you mentioned — being promiscuous or confused about their sexual identity — from heterosexuals and homosexuals alike. Fortunately, your realizations about your own sexuality offer you the opportunity to move beyond those stereotypes and accept bisexuality for what it really is: one more equally valid expression of the complex world of human sexuality.

If you think back to when you were coming out as a lesbian in college, you will probably remember worrying about how it would look if you dated women, and if your friends and family knew that what they had assumed all along — that you were straight — wasn't true. Those concerns are similar to what you're writing about now. A major part of your concern is probably how lesbians and gay men you've counted on as allies will react to your new identity as a bisexual, given some of the prejudices faced by bisexuals in the gay and lesbian community. In a way, you're coming out all over again.

When you write that you were comfortable living as a lesbian, you probably mean that you have built supportive networks of friends and family that make dealing with homophobia in society more manageable. You will find that dealing with biphobia — those prejudices and stereotypes mentioned above — will require pretty much the same. You can't stop people from thinking things about you or how you express your sexuality; you can, however, decide how you will think about it.

Are you bisexual? Here are some questions to help teens who are trying to figure out if they are bisexual.

One of the most common questions that teens ask on this site is "If I like guys and girls does that mean I'm bisexual?" or, "How can I tell if I'm bisexual?" And while there is no one test that can conclusively answer that, asking yourself some important questions can be a good way to help figure things out. So, take this quiz to help you get more insight into your sexual orientation!

Asking yourself these types of questions can be helpful, but don't worry if you don't know the answers right now. A lot of teens question their sexual orientation, and while some people know they are bisexual their whole life, for many people figuring this out is a long process!

I think that I'm bisexual. I've never thought of myself feeling this way, but I do. My new friend has admitted to being bisexual although she knows that I've never been. Lately I've felt somewhat attracted to her. I've even had dreams about her, but I still find guys attractive. Would you consider me bisexual or bicurious?

We are often called to label ourselves as purely sexually inclined one way or the other, either to be attracted to guys or to girls only, end of story. But in actuality, most people fall somewhere on a spectrum of attraction, fantasy, desire, and action with people of all genders. The curiosity your friend has sparked in you could be just that — same-gender wonderings — or it could be the impetus for discovering that you are bisexual, and may be attracted to other women in the future.

Your dreams about your friend fall well within the range of normal sexuality. Fantasies can be a powerful vehicle to discovering new facets and depths of your sexuality — some people feel ashamed of dreams or fantasies that do not fit into their waking lives or partners, but even taboo-feeling fantasies may teach us something about who we are attracted to and why.

The pioneering sex researcher Alfred Kinsey broke from popular thinking on sexuality in the 1950s, theorizing that bisexuality was in fact far more common than previously thought. Kinsey is perhaps most famous for his sexual-orientation scale, which represents exclusive heterosexuality with a zero and exclusive homosexuality with a six — bisexuality is regarded as an approximate three, when a person is equally attracted to or has had sexual experiences (including fantasies) with both men and women.

Most humans experience erotic desires, act on those desires, and have relationships in a social context. Kinsey's research showed that bisexuals had more sexual experiences with one gender or another depending on their social environment. In other words, factors that we might not think of as sexual per se, like political and social ties, can in fact influence those who we choose to be with and whether we identify ourselves as straight, gay, bi, queer, etc.